Thursday, January 17, 2013

The Unthinkable

There are things in life that I believe will truly never be understood. They aren't meant to be in this life. Maybe when the time is right, but for now all we have are questions.

I'm sure everyone is aware of the incident that has unfolded in our community yesterday January 16th, 2013. That man happens to be a great friend of mine and Scott's. He's also Scott's co-worker, the same man that Scott has lived with the last three years while he was running the road crews. We know him, we care about him, and we love him. Currently Scott and myself are in complete and utter shock, dismay, a blur. Call it what you will, but we are beside ourselves. Words could not fully describe the emotions, the hurt, the anger that we are experiencing.

To those of you who only know what is going on from what the media is telling you... Please know there is a bigger picture. Please remember no matter what happened last night, Boede Paul is human. He has a mom, a dad, brothers, sister-in-laws, nieces and nephews, and a year old son. That baby will never know his parents. Not for one moment am I justifying what has happened, but I do believe there are no bad people. There are simply good people who do bad things. Boede is one of the greatest people we have ever had the pleasure of knowing. He has been a guest in our home, a guest at our wedding, and most importantly a friend to Scott and I when we needed it. He is kind, gentle, down to earth, funny, and just an all around good person.

Have you never made a mistake in your life? Have you never had poor judgement when things got bad? Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but again, bashing a person you have never met makes you no better of a person. Instead of wasting energy on telling the world what a horrible human being he must have been, pray for his family. Pray for his baby boy. Pray for Angela and her family.

Things are only going to get worse before they get better. Both parties involved have years of healing and even more years of understanding. Why? At this point, we can ask till we are blue in the face. We will simply never know. All we know is this is happening. This is real life. And at some point, we have to deal with it. We are going to have to come to terms we will never see Boede on the Earth again. All we have are the memories of the good times. That's what we want to hold on to. Not the mess and chaos of last night. The person in that pickup truck is not the person we know and love.

I can only pray for comfort for the Paul family and for the Shultz family. I can ask God to please ease some of our pain and hurt. I know He is there, and I know He is listening. I can only hope that Boede is safe and without pain. He is free from his suffering. All I can ask for now is that Boede looks down on us and realizes how many love him and how much we miss him.

Today is hard, tomorrow will be harder and the next day will be harder than that. Pray for peace. For everyone.

Monday, January 7, 2013

Family Pictures 2012

Should have known when the first picture is this
 behavior that it would be a long day :)







You see what I mean... Hot.Mess.





I am deathly afraid of birds and they were hovering 
this bridge. I almost died. 




Photo Credits: Hilairy Jayne Photography.
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Private Time

So I've been thinking about the topic of taking our blog private. Have you ever actually taken the time to see where your 'viewing audience' is from? I was messing around with settings just by chance and it's disturbing! So I think it's time. I know my readers are rather few and far between, but those of you who do want to be apart of our little Nelson News, send me an email - chrimare@isu.edu. I'll get you on the list. I'll probably wait a little bit before I actually do the deed, but for now, you have all be warned :)

Hope you all had a great holiday season! My family and Scott's family had an amazing Christmas, one that will not soon be forgotten. This topic is a separate post in itself - stay tuned! We both had two consecutive weeks off, at the same time people, that never happens! So we were able to hang out a lot and do a whole lot of nothing. It was so great. It's not often we can just be together and relax. I think we may have gotten our of our sweats a total of 5 days. Laziness at its finest!

A few weeks before Christmas I had my friend, Hilairy, take some family photos for our christmas card. I kept looking through them thinking.. Wow, this group of 4 is a total wreck! Diesel is eating his leash, eating Ruger's leash, trying to run away, at one point Ruger drug me to the ground in the rocks and I fell to my knees. It was a lovely, frigid day! I'll post a whole mess of them on my next post and you'll see what I'm taking about.

Happy New Year friends!